Genie Bras Are Not For Everybody

I have always wanted to wear a comfortable bra. I truly did. It has been a goal of mine since I realized I had more than enough boobage for the average short woman to carry around. I have gone from under wire to sports bras, to wearing and under wire bra and a sports bra to putting to different kinds of bras together to get the coverage and support that I need. It has been a harrowing experience that for the LIFE of me I cannot understand WHY anyone in their right minds would want more of these things men seem to enjoy, babies love to suckle and women love to envy or buy if they cannot grow their own.
I don't understand this phenomenon. It vexes my mind to no end the way that people make a big deal out of boobies. Including me.
Why I should be happy that I have more than a handful. Some women would kill to have the rack I have. Well if they knew the reality of having naturally large breasts and what it can cost your wallet, your wardrobe and your self esteem they would leave that mess right where it is.
In the quest to find good support I like everyone else was seeking the miracle bra. The brassiere that would life and separate and make me feel as I am not wearing anything at all. Yea Ok ......

Introducing the Genie Bra. I had seen it on commercials for months now and thought according to the wonderful full figured ladies in the infomercial who went from long, sagging breasts ill fitted in their corsets, to lifted and support with this one bra....well why wouldn't it work for me? RIGHT....
(CRICKETS)
RIGHT?
Sigh .....well I bought a box of Genie Bras. I bought the 3X because it said that if you were a 44 in around the chest and back that is what you would get....ok well thats what I will do and I did. This was the largest size that they carried and so I open the box.....I wasn't really all that excited only because I realized this box was way to small for me to even consider for the carriage I have on my chest. I figured however, what the hell let me try any way since it was only twenty dollars.
I open the box and am immediately shocked. What planet are they on? Did they not look at large breasts before they designed these things? Did  they not look at how a REAL woman's body is shaped and not a mannequin? I mean you should have seen these itty bitty things! It was ridiculous. I chuckled and disrobed to prove to myself that the Genie Bra was truly a waste of money.
I pull out the black one first and it looks just like the sports bras I buy for extra support ....I slide it over my head and am immediately reminded that the long line bras my foster mother forced me to wear as a young girl was probably why I was so jaded now about being a woman with large breasts.

She used to say..."You need a long line bra...you need support you need something that is going to hold you up and hold you in"
We would have arguments and I would be arguing in my head to save my teeth about how I needed to always have an underwire bra on or a long line bra which really is like a bra with a corset connected to slim you down. But wait ....I was a size 5 at the time...how much smaller did I need to be? What I really needed was a damn good surgeon! But I digress what did I know as other girls my age we able to wear cute tops and halters and half shirts with no sleeves. I just wanted to be like everyone else.







Flash forward to my bathroom as I slip the Genie Bra over myself and adjust the bra to fit over the fleshy things I fed my children with and saw NO SUPPORT WHAT SO EVER. NONE.. I was spilling out of the sides and top of the bra just like other bras I have had in the past! I wasn't upset....I just took it off and found the receipt so I could promptly take it BACK to the store where I purchased them from.
The older I have gotten I have come to accept I am a bit different in build than some and alot like others at times and this silly assed bra that can only fit a nine year old no matter what the box says is not going to take me back to feeling like being different is bad.
I have also learned one valuable lesson in this...THE GENIE BRA IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. If you are flat chested ...why bother with a bra at all? If you have small breasts this is a great option for you. If you are over a D cup? FORGET IT DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME OR MONEY. 
Good riddance GENIE BRA.....


Til Next Time ....

I will find something that fits.

Y've

The Megachurch All In Ya Business Dilemma

So I know you have probably heard by now how Megachurch pastor, Creflo Dollar was arrested for allegedly attacking his daughter in their Fayetteville home.

I wasn't going to say anything about this event but I wanted to touch on it because I am not going to sit by and read in the blogosphere and talk with people about this and not talk about it myself on my blog.
The conversations have been about how she disrespected her father. When a parent tells a 15 year old child no you cannot leave the house at 1am in the morning to go to a party, that child should obey the parent with no lip and go to bed. Right? Come on now what planet are you living on?
I was not there and I do not know what happened. I can only go by what was said on the police report that is public record. I am just confused about how she went from tears in the kitchen to ending up on the floor? That part confuses me but again I was not there.
Of course I would like to assume all kinds of positions on this. Of course I have heard all of the things about how Pastor Dollar is an abuser and how he needs to be reprimanded for his behavior. I have read and talked to people about how this "pimp" as they call him should not have put his hands on her, whooped her with a shoe, nor wrestled her to the ground and choked her.
(EYES LOOKING UP AND AROUND)
Can I go here and just keep it real? I don't condone abuse. Period. I don't care who you are. I don't approve of verbal, emotional or physical abuse of any kind. This smells like abuse doesn't it? I would think so yes it does.

BUT THEN ....THE MAMA IN ME CAME OUT ...(Ok I asked could I keep it real)
I don't know this man from Adam though I have attended his church on several occasions when I lived in Atlanta. What I DO know is a parent's frustration at trying to reach an intolerable child. I know that. Again I don't know what happened I don't live at that house. Let me be clear but as a parent of FOUR children three of which are girls and two of those who are past the age of 15...sometimes when there is nothing more you can say or do when you have talked, cajoled, begged and pleaded and your blood begins to boil at the belligerent and abstract behavior of someone you BIRTHED into this world, you may not be able to think straight when someone tells you they don't want to talk right now. In the middle of all of the press and media about this .....I thought back to days when I myself got physical with my two eldest and why.
Many times it was because no matter what I said I didn't know what I was talking about. Hell I had never been where they were I had never experienced anything. I just woke up an adult and had the answers right? Mmm yeah ok.
Let's look at some other factors here too. I am putting a roof over your head, I am teaching you fundamental things about being a functioning citizen, I am feeding you, clothing you and loving you unconditionally from the bottom of my soul because you are reflection of me. As a parent you often times think like that. Because you know what? It's true. 
Again I do not condone abuse, PERIOD I want that to be clear but you know what? When you are doing all of the above, working hard to provide and make sure that the children you are responsible for are well WELL WELL taken care of based on the resources available to you, and a child is out of control for a certain length of time ...ummmm you just might snap and black out just for a second. I'm just saying. You very well may. I can bet you that is what happened in this situation because as a parent I have been there.
You have done and said all you can. You have been gentle, your words can be firm, you can say no and have valid and good reason....(how bout you are a child that's a valid enough reason right there) but when a child continues to be out of control...and for me that would mean speaking to me wrong ok?...and I HAD YOU and struggling to make sure that you are provided for above even me...and you show out?
Baaaabbbbbbeeeeeeey let me just say this.......I have blacked out too for just a moment. When I came to....children would be in tears, I would be huffing and puffing and their siblings would look on in horror ...as I dare anyone to reach for the phone to call 911. Yes,... there I admit it.
Mind you this has been on rare occasions but when I continue to ask you or tell you no or not to do something and you disrespect my authority...in MY HOUSE? Sweetie we have a problem.
Reading the report it seems to me that Pastor Dollar lost it. He snapped no doubt from just wanting to do what he felt was right for his daughter. But then again what do I know. I wasn't there.
What else do I figure? This kid knew the magnitude of "Daddy's" popularity and made the call to shame him. But then again what do I know?
Here is what's interesting. In the end of it all...abuse is abuse. I don't condone it. Do parents lose their cool and go to the end of their rope not knowing what else to do to reach an unreachable child? Yes that happens I outta know.
Let's not pretend that we have not been there nor that we have children that cannot be reached. Physically abusing children is different than spanking we know this.
I just know for me I have been in that position where all else has failed and you think of the moments you sacrificed for this child and now you giving me lip? Excuse me?
I love my children ...believe me I do. I know Creflo Dollar loves his as well but even we as parents being the human beings we are don't have all of the answers. We don't have a rule book that we can go by to tell us how smooth rearing children is going to be. THERE IS NONE.
One thing I know. When the smoke clears, when its all calm again and we and the media get out of their face the one thing that is going to happen is this.....she will become a woman. In that will be more challenges that only one person can help her with. Daddy...and one thing I am certain of he will be there like I have been for mine that are adults now.
Parents are not perfect, yes we lose our cool. No there is no certain rulebook that says not to black out when you give up. Don't lose your cool, keep your wits about you when your child has disobeyed for the umpteenth time, when they have cursed you out or raised their hand at you in the house you are paying for so they can have a roof over their heads.
Moms and Dads are not perfect. Is physical abuse being condoned in this piece? No.....I'm just saying this father who loves his children lost his cool for a few seconds and now he is about to suffer the repercussions of it in public. Let us not pretend that we too have not had a moment where we blank out just for a few seconds.
I am no ones judge or jury. If there is abuse.....get help as a family and address it. Period....same as me...I did get help. Seriously I really did because perfect I am not. NONE OF US ARE.


Til Next Time....

Y've

Single Ladies Episode 2 Season 2

Single Ladies....Season 2 Episode 2 hmmmm where do I begin trying to get to the meat of the point of the show. (LOOKING UP INTO THE CEILING)
I am going to keep it short and sweet because I am not certain I can do anything else. I know in my first post about Single Ladies I was not sure about the acting nor about how unreal the careers are or how the cast members all seemed to be living these uber paid and rich females and the men that made them swoon and scream.
Someone must have heard me out there! This episode was a bit more real I think in some respect. Keisha needed money and went out hunting for houses to sell. April was working diligently in her little efficiency apartment to try and book and set up for the next event at the club she worked for. Raquel took a chance and bought a share of Val's business with her entire life savings after she told her mom where to get off.
Let me tell you something else I liked. No LOVED. The clothes of course. Eve was rocking a hot silver number in one of the scenes as Keisha tried to convince her that Raquel was the person to partner with for her business. Keisha had on the cutest wrap dress and even though I have read about how old she is compared to the other two cast members ...by goodness gracious I have friends that are in their twenties! What better way to keep youthful and be a testament to those younger than you without losing who you are. She seems to be the one they go to in the show for support. But it is clear that she is older than the other two cast members no matter what she said about she and Raquel growing up together. BULL. But then it is a soap right? Ok let's play the game Y've.
The acting is still not the greatest but I believe I am over that. I was impressed at how they poured champagne and toasted one another for encouragement. Not tearing each other down like the wives we see on shows. Something else I like too......they are single and living their lives quite well regardless of how the script seemed choppy and the love scenes pointless. I like that too and they look cute in their clothes doing it. I know I know shallow right? I am just keeping it real! Call a show what it is a show on Single Ladies not a show about wives that are not even there. THAT I LIKE....THAT I CAN SUPPORT.

So of course I will watch the show again....hopefully we will see more meat to the show as it get into. But it's only episode and you know what the jury is still out as far as I am concerned on Single Ladies. I'll just tune in again and see.

Til Next Time

Y've

Single Ladies Season 2 Episode 1 Review

So I took some time to get up close and personal with the new episode of "Single Ladies" in their second season. You know I had to tell you all what I think....why? Cause I feel like it.
I was not impressed with the way they passively covered Valerie and her disappearance from the show. I was shocked at how the producers took the time to just take her situation and place it on the low list of priority to make the new show valid.
Now I could be wrong maybe they totally forgot that Val was cuddled up with the ex while she opened up her apartment door and found the man she loved standing on bended knee to ask for her hand. Are we supposed to forget that? Well I guess in TV land this is the way it is.
Let's talk about the script......it seemed choppy.....I dunno I believe an actor should be natural but even hand gestures in the episode aggravated me. Take for instance when Racquel's fiance is called out in a room full of people for being unfaithful , she walks off the stage and he stands there saying nothing but holding his hands up as if to tell the crowd who is not looking at him by the way to "calm down". Yeah....RIGHT.
So we pour champagne on a perfectly good dress to say good bye to a woman who has left her entire store to her girls so she can hang out in Milan? Hmmmmm still confused.
The flow seems off and that confuses me a bit. But then I think back to when the show started last year I started watching it to make sure I wanted to watch it at all and show black actors some support with my viewing eyes.
I want a touch of fantasy of some sort I guess but I guess this is slipping a bit. I thought for a minute I was watching a knock off of the eighties hits soap series "Dynasty" or "THE BOLD THE BLACK AND THE BEAUTIFUL" I shudder to think. Shout out to Robert Townsend for that though.

Maybe I am just being too real but Keisha played by Lisa Raye is a believable character because she is a real estate agent with not a lot of houses under her belt, she is a loyal soul sister girlfriend with a mess of a man in her life that has her nose wide open and in legal trouble. Let not forget how she has a sordid past of dancing in music videos to make money and how she gambles to make her money. I dig that I know people like that seriously.  People who are trying to get it right but one way is too easy and familiar? Yeah I like Keisha. But now.. the FBI agent being able to follow her around was getting old quick.

April well I know about concert promoting and night club promotion. Poor thing in real life if  you were doing this in the ATL you would be broke until you booked the event, paid your folks and the bartender and your acts. You would have on jeans and a ponytail, carry a  back pack with a laptop in it so you could work wherever you are and a Smartphone at the ready to communicate all of the time. You would have a team of street folks all over posting up fliers and you most definitely would not be booking Big Boi. You would be booking Keisha Jackson and her powerhouse vocal ability would be bringing the house down. Unless she (April) is in that click ...ah but what do I know ....give me a touch of reality. PLEASE just a touch and keep it real. Booking ANYTHING of good substance and talent in the ATL is a challenge but then this IS TV right? Back off Y've.

New girl lets get to her....Raquel.....Lancaster is it? Wow ....
You that rich girl? I dunno I am going to have to take some time and check out the next couple of episode.
I will be honest with you I love the clothes and the style....I do...so I will keep watching cause Lisa Raye can rock some cute outfits!
I won't give up on them just yet cause there is no cat fighting, no cursing each other out and no spitting around the world. The acting my be not be the greatest, the storyline a bit choppy but you know for the other shows they have on the same network about Black women I'm going to stick around and show some support. So I will give the show my honest opinion while Omar is confused officially about his sexuality.




Til next time,

Y've